When we opened the front door, there is a surprise and it's not the Amazon or Zara package we ordered. Instead, it's a new situation that needs a mother's attention. Choosing to hold back is something new but is needed.
When pulling up to your home and you take a few moments to sit in your car to breathe because knowing once you enter the house it's going to hit the fan. Who wants to run away from the one place they should feel safe. Did our parents have these same feelings of being overwhelmed, feeling helpless and not seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. If so, I guess payback is a bitch because some of us are dealing with our children behavioral issues from bad attitudes, mood swings, defiance or simply just not listening.
With saying this, I dealt with a stress headache today. Situations are happening and choosing not to jump in with my opinions and solutions ways heavy on my heart. As a mother, that can be difficult. I'm making an effort not to hold on so tight but not completely let go either. I'm not ashamed to say that I'm taking baby steps even though my kids are 23, 21 and 17. There is no such thing as a "Perfect Parent" so being as real as we can and leading by example seems like the perfect solution to help with letting go.
To all the mothers out there, we are required to develop strengths we didn't know we had and fears we didn't know existed. Loving our children more than ourselves while praying continuously for strength, wisdom and patience is what parents do. It seems like overnight they suddenly have a voice in the conversation and does not hesitate to express their strong opinions. As our children become young adults, it's difficult to accept their battles are not ours to fight. We want to jump in and fix their problems. How dare our children fail when we can provide a solution to prevent failure.
Parenting is one of the hardest things we can choose to do. Another human we have to protect. Another human that looks at everything we say and do. A strong foundation begins at home; therefore, as parents, we hope the foundation that we have so proudly built for our children is solid.
I am interested in your comments. Are you in a similar situation of trying to let go and let your young adult children figure things out?
Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.
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